When we look at what actually causes our suffering it becomes apparent, as Khentrul Lodro Thaye Rinpoche said in his public talk on May 26, it is our mind. We all have to get old, we will be sick, and everybody is going to die. However, that is not the root of our unhappiness. Rather, it is that we resist. We say not me, not my loved ones.It is this refusal to face those difficult things that causes us to use avoidance behavior that undermines our ability to actually be present in our lives.